The first and foremost tool to use in making any positive or lasting change, in the way you view the world, is ‘thought replacement.’
That means understanding and embracing the things you say to and about yourself that are not technically true, and then rewriting that programming with something more useful to your success.
You do that by repeating the preferred thought until it becomes true for you.
After the graphic, I’ll share a wonderful little story about how this can work.
Anxiety, depression, worry, fear…they all make up the most common barriers to a healthy sense of well-being.
In fact, we spend far too much time feeling like we are on fire…being burned up by things that seem completely out of our control.
That is where thought replacement comes in.
During a sleepless night, a family feud or a thorny business meeting, you have the option to feel very differently about what is going on.
Here is one of my favorite examples:
One day, while cooking, I got a call from a client I had not spoken to for a couple of years. We had done great work and she occasionally came back for a ‘tune up.’
When I picked up the phone, I heard her crying and immediately put on my metaphoric armor to join her in whatever battle she was waging.
After a moment, I realized that she was not crying, she was LAUGHING!
She took a breath and explained.
I was going into a meeting with my boss, which is the one thing that I am most afraid of. I was so nervous, I was shaking and sweating.
Then, all of a sudden, I heard YOUR voice in my head, Bonny.
I heard you say that thing you said so many times…but it finally stuck. “Unless you are on FIRE, in any given moment, you are probably okay.”
I took a breath, shook myself and said, “Come on, girl. You are NOT on fire!
I got myself together and went to meet my boss, and do you know what I learned? She is JUST as afraid as I am!
It was such a relief, and I was so proud of myself, that I just had to call you and tell you about it. Thank you so much.
Just that one simple tool changed this woman’s experience of a long-held anxiety.
What situations do YOU need tools like that for?