(you totally should…)
I’ve got a plan to help you get through employment evaluations more successfully than ever…and without hating yourself or anyone else!
You may be looking at the self-evaluation process, and the dreaded ’sit down’, all wrong, and I can help.
PRO TIP: When filling out your self-assessment, passive language is NOT your friend.
My specialty is giving you the best possible words (and hopefully a better mindset) to help you get what you actually want!
I’m available via phone, skype, facetime and in-person, for a one hour strategy session geared to getting off the hamster wheel of dread that is evaluation season.
Traditional therapists would faint if I suggested to them that in-person treatment is NOT the only effective method for making positive and practical change in your life.
In fact, there are four different ways for us to work together.
Find a handy guide to what will work best for you HERE.
Love and Fear.
Every other emotion is a derivative of one of these two.
Go ahead. Try to think of an exception.
Just like that old Kevin Bacon game, I’ll wager that you will find that it takes less than six degrees of semantic separation to find the link between one or the other.
My friend Darryl Purpose wrote a song nearly 30 years ago with a lovely beat and a powerful message: “I don’t want to love fear and fear love no more. No more silence.”
Do you ever find yourself loving fear or fearing love?
Dear humans who are always welcome to pet me,
It is super easy to vote and it is much appreciated!
As you can see in the super cool photo below, I’M the one who does all the real work around here!
But, I have to grudgingly admit that Mom works hard too and, since she is the one with opposable thumbs perfect for filling my food bowl, I figured I should help out with this contest thingy.
Please click the link below and cast your vote in the Washington City Paper “Best of” poll for Best Life Coach. I’ll be happy to send you a pawtograph in return!
Voting closes at midnight March 1st. I’ll be snoring right about then, but you and your pack mates can spread the word until then.
Cagney, the Ambullset
Your life is a lot like a great big iceberg floating in your own personal ocean.
There is a lot to see on the surface but so, so, much more under the waterline.
On top, you’ve got your results: The stories you see repeated over and over again, featuring the same characters, sometimes dressed in different costumes, but feeling pretty familiar.
Those characters show up in the same old patterns. The ones that cause you to say things like, “It’s always like this! See, I KNEW it! I can never…,” etc.
Those patterns are based in beliefs and expectations that can lead you to _think_ you have no other options.
The truth is, you were taught to have certain expectations by mostly well-meaning people who were motivated by one basic impulse. And that impulse was passed down to you.
It’s what you could call, ‘the gift that keeps on giving.’ It has a lot of value, in that it keeps you from stepping in front of speeding trains or from lying down on a hot stove. But even with that terrific value, it can sure be an annoying stumbling block if you don’t know how to manage it with positive, practical tools.
Have you guessed what it is?
That good news is, many of those habits of thought and behavior born of fear are just that, HABITS. They can be rewritten so that what you see above the waterline is healthier and more fulfilling than you can imagine!
Have you ever changed a habit of the mind yourself?
The first and foremost tool to use in making any positive or lasting change, in the way you view the world, is ‘thought replacement.’
That means understanding and embracing the things you say to and about yourself that are not technically true, and then rewriting that programming with something more useful to your success.
You do that by repeating the preferred thought until it becomes true for you.
After the graphic, I’ll share a wonderful little story about how this can work.
Anxiety, depression, worry, fear…they all make up the most common barriers to a healthy sense of well-being.
In fact, we spend far too much time feeling like we are on fire…being burned up by things that seem completely out of our control.
That is where thought replacement comes in.
During a sleepless night, a family feud or a thorny business meeting, you have the option to feel very differently about what is going on.
Here is one of my favorite examples:
One day, while cooking, I got a call from a client I had not spoken to for a couple of years. We had done great work and she occasionally came back for a ‘tune up.’
When I picked up the phone, I heard her crying and immediately put on my metaphoric armor to join her in whatever battle she was waging.
After a moment, I realized that she was not crying, she was LAUGHING!
She took a breath and explained.
I was going into a meeting with my boss, which is the one thing that I am most afraid of. I was so nervous, I was shaking and sweating.
Then, all of a sudden, I heard YOUR voice in my head, Bonny.
I heard you say that thing you said so many times…but it finally stuck. “Unless you are on FIRE, in any given moment, you are probably okay.”
I took a breath, shook myself and said, “Come on, girl. You are NOT on fire!
I got myself together and went to meet my boss, and do you know what I learned? She is JUST as afraid as I am!
It was such a relief, and I was so proud of myself, that I just had to call you and tell you about it. Thank you so much.
Just that one simple tool changed this woman’s experience of a long-held anxiety.
What situations do YOU need tools like that for?
Hi. I’m Bonny King-Taylor and I’m running for the Washington City Paper, Best Life Coach Best of List for 2015.
I’m been a therapist and life coach for about 16 years, in private practice., helping people with everything from relationship issues, to parenting, to career development, to grief, and even just figuring out what you want to be, now that you are all grown up.
And, today, I’m asking for a favor.
I would LOVE it if you would click on the box below to go to my voting widget, enter your email address…or three…and let the City Paper know that I AM the best life coach.
And I would really appreciate it if you could send a message to your networks and ask your friends and family to do the same.
I LOVE what I do and winning this category would help me to reach a lot more people because…you know…everybody needs a little help sometimes…and I am here to help.
Voting is open to any and every email address, anywhere in the world.
Thank you so much!
Click the widget to vote and please share the link far and wide.
Thank you so much!